“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Sometimes you’ll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you’ll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.” – Cheryl Strayed
I read this book about a year ago and it soon became among my favorite books. In French we call it “livre de chevet”, a book you keep by your bed, one you read more than once, one you open at random pages at random times.
I had found this book recommendation in one of the websites I look into for inspiration about my reading list for the year. I did not know it will impact me so deeply. I recall lending this book to many friends after I read it. I usually do not lend books.
The book consists of a compilation of letters that random people sent to the author as she was a contributor to a newspaper under the name of Sugar. The book also contains her answers to these letters. Letters cover a variety of topics that affect us throughout our life.
As I read this book I laughed, I smiled, and trust me – I cried.
I bookmarked many letters. As I read them I felt that I had written them myself. Someone must have felt what I did at some point in time, somewhere out there.
This is the kind of books that inspire you, transport you, and transform you.
The author avoids playing the role of a therapist and turns herself into a muse. The book contains a wealth of ideas. I would say that it answers the question of “what would you do if you were in this situation?”
The letters speak about people and situations of all walks of life. If she mentions things you have not come across, rest assured that this book equips you beautifully to what you might encounter as you deal with people, and as you navigate the subtleties of life.
If I were to recommend one book to every young woman about to make a major decision in her life such as selecting her education major, or leaving her parents’ house, or getting married, or giving birth, or choosing a career, or quitting, etc. I would surely recommend this book; one that does not lecture her. Instead one that reminds her of her self-worth, one that reminds her that it is not about being perfect, it is about trying, failing, and trying again, one that reminds her that even in crushing self-doubt moments there is a way out, and she is all enough.
This book is fun, enlightening and moving. One feels that he/she is having a break to rewire. I read the book in less than two days and then I spent two more days reading again some letters that I felt were very personal and powerful.
I think this book makes a perfect year-end gift. A read to start all over again.
If you had the luxury of writing your struggles to someone who you do not know, someone who would probably answer you based on his/her experience and objective understanding of your state, would you take the time to write to him/her?
What if you wrote to someone who does not exist? What if you wrote and knew that no one will answer you, would you still heal?
Give it a try.
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